Words are processed in the thinking part of our brains, whereas touch goes directly to our emotional centers.
The upper arm and rubbing deal might just be a way for him to comfort you. A man tends to do this when he is trying to gauge a reaction from the woman because he is unsure himself how the woman feels towards him. If you come straight out and "ask" him if he's interested; you're over doing it. I'm a toucher and I'd do something like this to gauge your reaction and to convey my interest. Smile and do not be afraid to show you are interested.I don't know the scenario as it took place, so it's hard to say. if you're interested in the guy and he keeps it up, don't pull away. He is feeling you out to try and ascertain if you're interested in him. When a guy goes to touch a woman he wants to see her reaction. If a woman isnt interested, and doesnt want to feel awkward she generally pulls away, which I'm sure you already know. Hopefully, he doesn't start touching her in those red zone areas right off the bat! Make sure you're responding to this guy as/if he continues by returning his touch.. One things for sure, if your not a toucher run baby run, the two don't mix :)The signs:*he smiles at you a lot and you talk often*he has never made the iniative to make physical contact before.*he placed his hand on your upper arm and rubbed your arm. He likes you and it pleases him to see you and to touch you. The biggest thing is be confident even though you are nervous.You might want to try returning some touch and see how he responds.. As his interest continues he will begin touching you in different areas, like hands, and sometimes he will try to hug you, and hold the hug. The query:'Just wondering what it means when a guy touches a woman like this? 'The divination: Touching you on a safe/neutral body part after you’ve shared talk and smiles means he is approaching you slowly and respectfully. Waiting so long and then touching you in a neutral and non-invasive manner is a sign of well-developed social awareness. Have fun with whatever happens because either way you tried..I'm not sure he likes me but he smiles at me a lot and we talk often. Stop trying to look for cues that he's interested in you and ASK HIM!!!However, he has never made the iniative to make physical contact before. I'll do this kind of thing if I'm interested in a woman and want to gauge her interest in me. Why do women (and men to less of a degree) do this so much? But if you don't tell him it's likely that nothing is going to come of it anyway. If hes not touchy-feely, it could mean anything from "I think I'm socially awkward and someone told me that touching people helps social interaction", to "I want her, but I'm too inexperienced/nervous to act on it.", to "She seems upset, so I'll touch her somewhere inoffensive to cheer her up.", to, "I tripped and needed to grab something", to "I want her, but I'm too much of a gentleman to do more than gently touch her arm", to "I'm interested in her, and I like seducing girls/women slowly".